Solo Show

Real wars are fought alone,

Honest tears trickled behind closed doors,

Mirrors gazed longer when lonely,

Perpetual peace earned in solace,

Lyrics absorbed than music in abandonment,

Poetry free flows only in solitude

Love associated more with absence than presence,

And real happiness comes only when truly yourself!

The only permanent Relationship

Harvard University recently ran this survey where they asked people from different backgrounds, socials, status and demographics to figure out what brings them happiness. After quite a few years of study, they null down to the conclusion that the only real happiness came from Healthy Relationships. These relationships are not just with your spouse but with everyone around you – your neighbors, colleagues, your house help etc. etc.

Recently I also happened to meet this elderly lady, in her 50s struggling real hard to smile since her husband passed away and even after 1.5 years, she cried in the first 15mins that she met me. Her only question with life now was – “Who will I cook for now?” and that put me thinking, this lady invested her entire life serving her husband, cooking what he liked, living the way he wanted, forgot herself to be with his side and now that he is off- she is shocked, what is she going to do now, because she killed herself long back with this marriage. She doesn’t know what hobbies she might have, her interests; she wasn’t even very particular about the food that she liked herself- she was basically nobody now! She also happens to have a son who is now settled in the US and is willing to take her with him but she wants to stay in her husband’s house, dwelling upon the lost memories. She doesn’t want to move on and I feel she might not be able to – ever!

We humans, we are in a relationship even before we are born- with our moms. First person to hold us in arms is our daddy! We come home from the hospital and find there is a sibling too or a dog or a cat for that matter. We are pushed into relationships before we know what it is! And this cycle never ends – till the time we breathe our last.

Now in addition to these ‘compulsory’ relationships, we go ahead and make some on our own. Friends, colleagues,  neighbors. We also go to the extent of giving a lifetime commitment and step into ‘marriage’ thinking it will be a Happily Everafter! But does it stand true in most of the cases? No. People get separated all the time, either by their will or because of others. People cheat, people lie and why – to save another parallel relationship – Now is that one forever? Off course, that too is temporary. They know it won’t get too far but yet they continue the journey. And they spend their whole damn lives becoming the way people like them; they are in a relationship with. And all this for what? – For “Happiness” 

And they do one more blunder, they forget themselves. They forget to make the relationship most important of all –the one with themselves. They love too much – but others, they change- and for others, they dress – for others, they basically do every damn thing – everything for others. Parents die, marriages break, friends ditch, neighbors lie, colleagues steal and yet we think this is forever ever? Hell No.

The only relationship which is permanent is the one you have with yourself, Rest EVERY relationship is temporary.

The relationship you have with yourself is an affair that will last till your last. Some learned ones relate this ‘yourself’ to their faith, their God! For them their faith is everything. Some are too much in love with the art they practice and creating the artpiece will only be a love-making for them! It depends person to person what they love apart from material people and that’s exactly what I am trying to say here. Love Yourself first, people come and go, but YOU will stay till you stay!

Make out to yourself, indulge in yourself, and love yourself!

Because eventually it’s all about you

Heartaches

If only, we could own up our own heartaches and continued loving, no matter what it takes......, how long it goes......., where it finally lands........!!

We are scared- of loving! We are scared just before sending that text full of emotions, we are scared to go out just in case the real heart matters slip out of a watery tongue, we are scared to sip coffees together coz we might talk out hearts out- and all this why? Because of “Heartaches”

Heartaches --- Ouch!  They come with every kind of love you know of! They will come and you can’t just ignore them. So should we just stop loving and having a real life? I don’t think so. Life is nothing devoid of love. Those butterflies in the stomach on a slight rub of hands accidentally, that is life; the feeling of caring for someone and getting the favor returned that is life; sharing nasty details from poop timings to how shitty the boss is, that is real life.  Should we just stop living then, just because it will, at some point of time bring heartache along? I definitely don’t think so!!

Hypothetically thinking, what if, we could just keep on loving keeping the worries at bay? Will it not bring consequences? Off course it will. You might have a hard time getting over it. You might even go on a sabbatical full of undesirable thoughts and insomniac nights. But won’t you get to think of the glorious butterflies then and smile a bit? Won’t you carry some beautiful memories forever? Then why not drop the ‘Heartache Phobia’ aside and live the moment- make the best of it!!

But wait, if you are already feeling too inspired by now, here is a little reality check. “Do it at your own risk” If you think you are man enough to deal with your heartache later on, then take the plunge because the one giving you those butterfly memories won’t be there to cry along. If you don’t think you are that kind of person- Sir, please leave right away! (But anyway it’s not going to help you, sorry to say)

Any which ways this world and our lives should never be short on love because this is the only thing which is our private yet shared. Don’t let the heartache stop you from loving. Don’t kill those butterflies just so soon!!

असमंजस

@kaveeshaklicks #insta

असमंजस हैं बड़े,
किन धूप छांव में हम आ खड़े
शिकवे हैं या शिकवे न होने के गिले
इतने खामोश क्यूँ हैं सिलसिले...?

कब से हुए यहीं हम ठहरे,
न हम बदले न तुम बदले,
फिर भी हम असमंजस में पड़े ..;

मायूसी और मुस्कुराहटें दोनों नहीं,
बस ख़ामोशी है और कुछ नहीं,
उलझे उलझे दिन हैं सादी सादी रातें,
दोनों वही हैं मगर दोनों चुप खड़े;

असमंजस हैं बड़े...!!!

क्यों कर

क्यों कर सुख की चिंता है
क्यों कर मुस्कुराहटों की अभिलाषा है
जहाँ स्थायी- अस्थायी स्वयं अस्थिर हैं
वहां क्यों कर स्थिरता की कामना है,


जब कोई भी इस जगत में
पूर्णतयः निर्दोष नहीं
वहां क्यों एक तिल रहित चित्त की पिपासा है



विलक्षण होकर भी क्या होगा
जो होना है, अंत वही होगा
न जान पाओगे सीमाओं को,
न ही लांघ पाना मुनासिब होगा;
फिर क्यों कर सब कुछ जान लेने की इच्छा है


चिरंजीव सुख सिर्फ एक ढकोसला है

जानते हुए भी,

क्यों कर मुस्कुराहटों की अभिलाषा है??




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खेद सहित,
कवीषा!!

Love and Other Affairs

Love Affair: Intellectual Affair: Sexual Affair

All three mentioned above are different, trust me! They are far apart from each other and distinctive too or exclusive in their own ways as I might put it!

We are humans and all of us possess heart, brain and hormones. All these three are just there to fulfill desires of each of them.

The sanest one considered socially is the Love Affair. It’s the usual one as we all know it, fall in love, feel emotional, feel attached, feel special, feel possessive, feel every emotion you know for that one person with whom you are not really scared to spend the rest of your life. Reciprocation is the key in this one and we are not judged for carrying forward this one. We do it since we step into teens and keep applying Trial & Error till we finally decide who that ‘one’ is. Generally this one ends on the note of marriage and there it goes away from your life!

The next level could be the Intellectual one. Here you don’t do anything. You just talk, just let your heart out. But you talk in every possible way, you talk with mouth (like normal people do), you talk with eyes (You can only do that if the other person is really looking deep in your eyes & admiring them too for that matter), you talk with heart and you don’t leave a thing behind in your heart or in your nostalgic lanes for that matter. You talk society, you talk philosophy, you talk of the stupid things you did as child and all those eve-teasing incidents which still sit heavy on your heart. You talk sense (well, mostly) and non-sense. You talk it all out and in return are being told that no matter how childish you talk, you sound so mature! You hear too (sorry I forgot to add that bit earlier) and you hear a lot. You hear things unsaid and you hear the rhythematic oscillation of their heartbeats. You hear what they are going to say next and you say it before they say it and that’s everything about this sort of affair.

In the third one, I don’t want to describe what happens but something surely happens which hasn’t been happening so far.

It might be possible that we have all three of these with one person or all three with three different persons. It depends on the capability of those other people; but if you are involved in all three of them, be assured you are capable of something extra for sure! Your ten percent might be somebody’s 100% and their 100% might be 20% for you. So it’s totally okay to experience all of these- ‘individually’ & ‘exclusively’ with different people.  As they say “Nobody is born perfect’ but probably YOU were and then it became an equally annoying job to find somebody as perfect as you..!! So go ahead.

PS- Started writing something earlier but had to leave it in the middle, would just add that patch here-

Sometimes we do what we don’t want to do and yet we do it.  Because it might be, that what we did, was something we always wanted to do , but we thought, we didn't want to do it, coz we  thought we shouldn't (Social Parameter Alert) do it!  

Better to do what you want to do, coz we are anyway not doing what we were supposed to do!  

#Love_Peace_And_Happiness_To_All 

तीन एहसास

बीती रात भीगी थी कुछ उम्मीदों के सैलाब में ;
आज की शाम भी कुछ नम ही गुज़री उन्ही उम्मीदों के ख्याल में 


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महफूज़ करना इन लम्हों को बेशक़ ये भागते से नज़र आएंगे 
भर लेना किसी खाली शीशी में कुछ अंश तो कम से कम तेरे संग रह जायेंगे 


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इश्क महफूज़ किसका हुआ है आज तक जो तेरा ही होगा, 
इसका एक जुर्म ही यही है कि बस ये ठहरता नहीं है 

It’s only you who is responsible for your “happiness”

Life consist of situations, decisions, choices and consequences and all this for what- “happiness”

We might be ruled over or dominated or even influenced or even emotionally controlled, at times, to make certain choices in different situations and thereby to sustain its consequences. Don’t let yourself suffer that!

Yes, I will say that again- Don’t let yourself suffer that! 

Our lives are not just about us , they are a complex mix of so many people around, our families, friends, people we fall in love with, people we have secret crushes on , people who are in love with us and we aren't , those we admire and those we hate but eventually it’s about “us” ! Whatever we do has a certain impact on all of these people but ultimately who suffers or enjoys is “us”!

True happiness can come only by the choices we make- uninfluenced and uncontrolled by any emotional trauma. Happiness which comes otherwise is only a satisfaction which comes by the sacrifice of making others happy!  We need to be able to differentiate in the two.

People whom I talked about above, these are off course important people but are they really going to be victim of the consequences? No! They will just stand by you, with sad and sympathetic faces but it’s only you who will suffer.

So, it’s essential to realize that the only person most important in your lie is you yourself! Nobody else is going to face the eventual outcomes. These people, it’s not their fault that they sense different consequences and try to influence your decisions because they love you. But, it’s equally important to realize that however deep they might love you, they may not be the right people to help you make the crucial decisions of life! Sometimes, there is nobody to think of your happiness because everyone is busy thinking of the consequences, at that time, make sure, you stand up for yourself. Make sure you do everything to save your happiness, irrespective of the consequences, irrespective of influences.

Take the call, decide for yourself and experience the real happiness – so what if it comes with a little consequence. At least it won’t be the side effect of sacrifices! 

Remember - Eventually its only about "you"!!