Make some room – Move On!!

For the co-warriors, trying to move on!

Stuck with some old relationships, people, moments, night long phone calls or over extended coffees with someone from the past? And the same doesn’t happen anymore and you know it might just never happen ever again? PLEASE MOVE ON!

First things first, the good news is that you are not alone in this. An average human has a life expectancy of 65 years of which the first half is when you start exploring the doom of a lonely world called love. By the time you hit your late 20s, you know it wasn’t love or anything even in the closer proximity. You argue with yourself in terms of analyzing if it was just infatuation, compatibility, comfort level or just a habit and maybe then just abandon the topic saying – You don’t know what love is! By the time you say this, you have gone through multiple (atleast more than one I am sure) heartaches and the whole roller coaster rides. And now, it’s time to move on.

We all have a favorite pair of jeans right? Which no matter how much it fades or even comes apart, we just won’t stop wearing them. Moms and others might tell you that it’s time to retire this ancient piece of fabric now but you just won’t stop doing that. Then over the time, you gain some weight, so naturally, the jeans stops fitting you. Conveniently ignoring your fatal attraction for the beloved pair of jeans, your body has grown with time- High time to buy new jeans!  So we do that – get out and search for days to get the same fit and comfort our favorite pair offered. After days of making those unsuccessful visits to various stores and coming back empty handed, we finally manage to bring home a new one. This new one goes right on top of the old one in the rack. But still, the old one lies right there, peeking through the old one. A few days down, you take the old one and try it out. It might even fit this time but you realize it has actually gone too ancient for you to wear it somewhere outside. You fold and keep it back! Trust me when I say, it will just lie there, idol, for a very long time. Time passes by and we keep shopping for more. And comes the final day when you realize that there is not even a remote possibility that your baby can be of any use to you ever again. And going per the theory of LIFO (Last in First Out) it silently bids goodbye to your wardrobe one day.

Question to ask yourself now- Are you shopping? Or looking like a beggar in the same old pair of jeans?  If not, please go out and buy a new pair of jeans. Make that much needed trip to the store. Make some room in wardrobe and in heart, let life offer you new colors and get on with it. It’s as simple as that! When trying to quit something (or someone)“Cold Turkey” isn’t always the best approach. REPLACE!!

Make some room- Move on.

Love in Social Media Times – PDA

PDA- Public Display of Affection: sounds cheesy! Right??  But sometimes it becomes imperative to do that!

With the digitization of everything and all of us living in our own small worlds, social media has become the new lanes where you stroll hand in hand by posting pictures or posting lovey dovey comments on each other’s posts and thus, the PDA!

Everything about PDA comes with a long train of criticism as well. There are tons of articles which tell you in how many ways the couples are just gross if they express love to each other in public. I have been part of that community as well, and more because I think, till then I wasn't getting any myself. 

Doing PDA in just the right limits can keep you off from social criticism as well as help to build your bond stronger.

·       With no ‘Good Morning’ messages ritual now, you wake up to a notification that your ‘louve’ has dropped a super sweet comment on your picture – not just admiring but how that sweetness has kept him stuck to you all these years- morning made right then and there!

·        Mutual friends and those reading every single comment of your pictures also get to know that the bond is going strong! This also goes for the secret admirers who are still secretly hoping for your break up.

·        Take it or not, real life compliments come rare!  In that case a well edited picture can help you get some much needed admiration :P  #selfesteemboost

·        Once you do any activity on any post, you automatically ‘follow’ that post and hence receive all the further activity. This might also give you about 5-10mins of discussion in your daily telephonic ritual especially when you have been in love for too many years and already drained out of topics.

·       It gives a sense that your better half is overall interested in your life – when half your life is spent sitting in front of a computer. And off course you can also get to know their other friends which will only add two more twinkles in their eyes that you care enough about them

·        You just keep feeling you are still in love!

But as I have also been a part of the hater’s community, there is also a little piece of advice

Word of Caution  

·         DON’T OVERDO IT! Love is not what is there for public display in your social online world but a little expression of it shows the commitment and keeps the life spiced up!

·         KEEP IT RARE! Keeping it rare will also keep the value of your compliment and the surprise along alive. Just doing it on every post will only irritate and you will lose that precious mental admiration in revert.

·         DON’T SPAM please for God’s sake!  People hate it when they are personally going through a rough love phase themselves and all they get to see on their feed is couples getting all cuddly – be human!

 So, PDA – because it’s as important as holding hands in public to make your beau safe and loved !!

PS- Once more I want to say – DON’T OVERDO IT!